Comments on: The Fat Wars

By: Buttercream

Buttercream — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 04:41:54 +0000

@Melinda,

Oh, the helpful people make me want to scream sometimes! I’m really, genuinely, happy for them that they have never had to deal with this like some of us. I wouldn’t wish this struggle on anyone! At the same time I wish they would just accept that people are different. Fat doesn’t equal stupid anymore than blond does.

By: Melinda

Melinda — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 00:27:52 +0000

The thing that kills me is the unsolicited advice that people who are thin give you…like, “you know, if you just (insert dumb-ass comment here), you would lose so much weight.” Oh, REALLY? Jesus! I never though about never eating sugar again as a weight loss strategy! I’m SOOO glad that you told me that eggs and mayonaisse and cheese and pasta are bad for me! I never would have known otherwise. And the other thing that kills me is the, “if you could just stick to it for 21 days, you would make it a habit for life.” Um, no, really, I couldn’t. I haven’t had a jar of mayo or refined white sugar in my house (other than for cooking stuff that I give away) for more than 5 years, and notice that the size has gone up and not down. So 21 days can kiss the fattest part of my ass!

By: floating princess

floating princess — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 19:01:51 +0000

@Kyra,

I think you’ve hit it in the head – the middle ground is a myth. Our lives are constantly shifting and changing, so what was once a happy medium is suddenly left of center. Finding a new middle is then harder because you’re frustrated by the seeming failure of the former one.

I still want a unicorn too!

By: Kyra

Kyra — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 18:35:15 +0000

You know what I discovered is that there were just as many things to compliment as there were to put down about myself (physically) whether I was thin or fat. Once upon a time, my biggest motivation for getting skinny was to just get people to leave me the hell alone. I really thought that this would help, and I was completely blown away to find that people still found just as many things about my physical appearance to criticize. Nothing was ever enough, and it took the wind out of me. I mean, why the hell give up chocolate if they're just going to find something else to bitch about? That middle ground you're looking for? That search never ends either. I found a plan that worked for a long time, it was simple, healthy, easy to follow, and one day a week I got to eat whatever I wanted, so nothing was off limits. I got very very thin and healthy on this, and it's a great plan. But I got bored. So it worked for 2 years and then between being bored and disheartened by everyone (including myself)I moved on. And then I gained back a bit in my wanderings, tried to go back to what was working thinking it was better than this (with extra weight to boot), but in the end I've found it's not so easy. To me, that plan that worked where I COULD have my cake and eat it too should have been the fabulously wonderful middle ground. I think middle-ground is a myth, where the unicorns live... doesn't mean I don't want my own unicorn, still. Kyra´s last blog post..Focus

By: floating princess

floating princess — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 17:03:54 +0000

@Hilly,

No, it never is. It’s especially hard to find that nebulous middle ground. I’m not even sure where to begin looking!

By: Hilly

Hilly — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 16:40:04 +0000

Wow, you and I are a lot alike in this. I'm not striving to be super thin because I think getting there might make me miserable indeed. However, I think it is all about the middle ground. Finding a weight where you are comfortable with how you look and how you feel that is also easy to maintain. It's just never easy, is it? Hilly´s last blog post..Blaze It In The Morning & Wear It Like An Iron Skin…